5 tips to live a more relaxed life
These busy lives of ours. Running off to work, meeting here, meeting there, quick lunch, another meeting, some ‘behind schedule but have to be done’ e-mails, another meeting and then back in line with all those other cars hurrying home to pick up the kids from their daycare or babysitter.
We are all familiar with these days and there are many more of them than people wish for. I started off the day already being completely stressed out as I (just like every other parent) had to make breakfast, prepare lunch boxes (which of course also had to be healthy, responsible and tasty) and make sure the kids brought everything to school they need. And that while having only two kids instead of the three most of the families around me have. When my husband even so much as touched me in the kitchen in the early morning I could explode.
About a year ago, I realized this was all because of the fact that I wasn’t really in that kitchen in the morning. My mind was already with everything that had to be done that day, the meetings in my agenda, the clients that were waiting for my call, just normal everyday things.
So how can you change that?
Just five ways that made me live a more relaxed life.
- First of all, get out of bed ten minutes before the rest of your family does. Sit down in a place where you feel most comfortable and just be quiet. Just listen to your breath going in and out, and ask yourself what today is asking from you to be. Take the answer with you during the day.
- Secondly, before you enter a meeting, whether you are too late or not, take a moment to ground yourself. No matter what you are going to do, if you’re doing it in a hurry, you won’t be able to bring to the table what you should. Because you then wouldn’t be focused on your message, aware of the energy in the room, the body language of the people you meet, nothing. And that one minute is not going to get you fired. You’d be just ticking a box and therewith not delivering any true impact. So, ground yourself before every meeting or even coffee with a friend.
- Before you enter your home in the evening, take one moment in your car before you get in the house. Remind yourself not to just process, but have fun with your kids during these few hours or even half hour. Those are the moments they won’t forget and neither will you. The moments that are actually the most precious of all.
- Before you close your eyes at night, write down in a little booklet next to your bed, what moments were most precious to you that day. What happened, no matter how small, to be grateful for. It makes you fall asleep with nice thoughts, no matter how heavy the day has been.
- And last but not least: don’t be to hard on yourself. Remember, it’s a practice. Everyday again, you have to try again and again and be more aware of where you are in the present. As there is nothing BUT the present, so don’t let your mind run off to something that doesn’t exist yet. It is a waste of time as everything might have changed before you even get there.
Well, just try and see for yourself what works and what doesn’t. As long as you try, you’re on an adventure, so see everything as just information. While trying you’ll probably find out what works best for you. Good luck and great if you let me know your thoughts and own experiences!