Last week a friend invited me to come with her to the ‘De Mot Verhalen‘. In a beautiful setting, all kinds of people sit together and five of them tell a story with a musical intermezzo in between. It is organized to stimulate storytelling by real people. A wonderful experience. Five completely different stories, shared by five completely different people. The most beautiful part of it to me was how we, with all people present, somehow carried the person telling the story. Making it possible for them to share something personal, sometimes funny, sometimes heartbreaking.
These busy lives of ours. Running off to work, meeting here, meeting there, quick lunch, another meeting, some ‘behind schedule but have to be done’ e-mails, another meeting and then back in line with all those other cars hurrying home to pick up the kids from their daycare or babysitter.
We are all familiar with these days and there are many more of them than people wish for. I started off the day already being completely stressed out as I (just like every other parent) had to make breakfast, prepare lunch boxes (which of course also had to be healthy, responsible and tasty) and make sure the kids brought everything to school they need. And that while having only two kids instead of the three most of the families around me have. When my husband even so much as touched me in the kitchen in the early morning I could explode.
We find ourselves in a world that is volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous. There is a shift going on, to a next stage of human consciousness. All around the world are eruptions of some kind. In order to navigate this constantly changing world, we need to create a different perspective. The old economy has to make place for a new one and this requires a new way of working, a shift in perspective.
We are at war. We are at war with Islamic State. These are the words you spoke when I, and millions of other people in Europe woke up Saturday morning. I am taking your words in the strictest sense. I felt cramped since the moment I heard the news. Not that I didn’t yet realize what is happening in the world, but the inability to ensure our children the same freedom of living as we were able to enjoy thus far, is one of the most striking examples of a self-indulgent society.
Having a close look at the choices you make, results in finding a lot of patterns in your life, private as well as professional. It’s like a circle that just keeps on flowing. It might be a loop in which your business always used to work, but it might also be you recognize a pattern in the choices you’ve learned to make since childhood. It’s a challenge to spot them and change them if they’re not serving you anymore.
Sometimes it can be very hard to keep on standing. Especially when you are working on something that is trying to reach form, coming from this intangible idea. I’m sure a lot of entrepreneurs went through this. Having an idea, a dream, and making it something to work with, is giving your idea a form. It is about manifesting. In this process a lot of things happen. The key here is, to stay really close to yourself and listen to that inner voice, your gut feeling. Most successful business entrepreneurs already work that way.
Often I hear people say: ‘But it is so complex, I don’t know where to start, let alone where to finish!’. They have to deal with difficult questions, situations, projects. We have created an incredible amount of rules and criteria projects have to meet. People find themselves fighting the complexity of the question in front of them. What if there was another way? If we can look at difficult situations differently?
I love one of these latest songs from Kensington, Riddles. It has their specific signature, but most of all, it describes exactly what life is trying to show us. When is it time to step in? When does something blazes a trail? Do you try to follow the rythm, or are you planning ahead so much, you can hardly breathe? Do you believe in coincidence, or do you come from a place of discovery?
I bet you have a lot of them too: deadlines. Those moments where you feel like your work is doubled by the time the deadline comes closer. There are deadlines at work and deadlines in private life, deadlines you choose for, deadlines that are just a given. Sometimes it is about helping someone out as you’ve promised them, the next time it is this huge project deadline, or presentation you have to give. You are working and pushing hard to meet the deadline and most of the times you do…
We all come across people once in a while we can’t follow, of whom we don’t know what their message is. Or we interpret their behavior as unfriendly and you can’t understand why. Or they have this attitude that makes them unreachable and you don’t know how to make contact, although you have to work with them. Or someone you just continuously clash with, either at work, or in private.