How to bring head and heart together

Walking each other homeWe live in challenging times. Turning on the television makes the vibe in the room change completely. The world outside is rumbling and when the world is rumbling, it rumbles on all levels. In our work, in our families and in our private life. Nobody can escape the change in vibes. Some experience it more powerful than others, and still it happens on every level in our society. To me this is a huge invitation. An invitation to stay close to my heart, as only my heart can show me the true way.

When my heart shows me the way, I use my head to manifest what my heart wants me to do. Without my head, I wouldn’t be able to be in time at appointments, have them prepared, or do what my agenda is asking me to do. I need my head. And at the same time my head shows me how the world works on its’ rumbling outside. Because it is the place that feels spoken to most of the time. When someone gives me an opinion about something I choose to do, my head feels rejected. When I notice this rejection living inside of me, I visit my point of stillness and ask my heart if it is true. There is always an answer there. A loving answer, that makes me embrace the situation and the fact that something has shown itself to me. Giving me the opportunity to work with it.

My head reflects what is happening in our outside world. And in our inside world, our hearts, all bond together, there is nothing but love. Make sure you visit your point of stillness often, so you will be able to know what lives inside your heart and in all of us. As our hearts are all connected. It is what bonds us. Take care of your heart. As this makes you bring to the world what is yours to do. And I wouldn’t want to miss that.

Would you like some help in finding your point of stillness? Alan Seale has a wonderful tool in which he helps you find yours. Feel free to use it!

Thinking with your own mind, sensing with your own heart

About children, education and connection

educationSitting at the beach on a beautiful morning last week, I spoke with a friend about connection. I called her, because her name just popped up in my mind and I wondered if she wouldn’t like to join me at my fantastic freelance work spot for the day. She answered the phone with the words, “Wow, I was just thinking of you!”. It happens to all of us regularly. And our conversation continued about the importance of connecting with yourself and others. Being connected with yourself, means being connected with others, who are in true connection with themselves as well. You find each other there, as all is one. Tapping into this, brings such happiness. In the end, it is the connection with yourself that creates the most balanced and happy you, telling others unconsciously they are allowed to do the same. As Nelson Mandela does in his inauguration speech, words of wisdom:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
It’s our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually who are we not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightening about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone.
And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously
Give other people the permission to do the same.

Nelson Mandela, Inaugural Speech 1994

Now from childhood onwards, everything was about educating the mind. Yes, I say ‘was’ as times are changing. Making sure your grades are good, getting into a well-regarded university and do an education of high standing. In order to have the best chances offered to you in the labour market.

Last weekends’ Financieele Dagblad (Dutch financial newspaper) published a spread about the most famous business universities like Harvard and INSEAD, who are now offering more and more programs on life lessons instead of business education. Because there is a high demand for a more intuitive kind of education. In the primary schools around me I hear nothing but kids not fitting into the governmental standard education anymore, searching for other ways to be able to express themselves.

Our daughter, who went to another school this year, blossoms as she is allowed to write stories, create videos, design projects of her own imagination and all that in primary school. She came to me this morning, telling me she knew how her story would continue, a story she was writing for a school contest. Just before she fell asleep it got to her and she hoped she would be able to keep it with her during the night. I wish for every child to be offered these chances. As it is not about grades anymore, but doing what you are good at. Using your personal talent, by being fully connected. A connection with themselves, one that will never leave them, if they are trained to go back there day in and day out. Listening to their inner voice. And knowing from their true being what their share in the world is. So provide them with roots, instead of holding them in our grounded conditions and set them free, make them fly . Show them they are worthy of being in their essence. Believe me, they won’t disappoint you, but show you the beauty of their dreams in return.


About KPI’s, leadership and transformation

Let your light shine

During my professional life, I’ve encountered many companies. They each have a different story to tell about a product they deliver. As a consultant in communications and PR, it is all about delivering the right message to the right target group. Now at the core of a company or organization, lies the essential energy from which it once arose. During the years companies transform, find structures, patterns. For a lot of those companies it is hard these days to follow the stream of energy that was once at its essence. The same energy from which now al those great start-ups are coming into bloom. This is the challenge organizations face in these volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous times.

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Stories: a field of encounter

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Last week I read a newspaper article of a company called Zintenz. The owner, Leo Kaniok, gave up his job because he found an old bag filled with pages and pages full of stories from different mystical traditions while moving his father to another home. His father collected the stories, but never used them. Leo, working as HR manager at COA, (the Dutch organisation responsible for the reception, supervision and departure of asylum seekers) tried to focus on the positive instead of the negative in meetings, but mostly his colleagues couldn’t get away from the drama and chose to stay in the negative. He used one of the stories in a meeting, which was a wonderful metaphor. Now they understood what he meant and they started to focus on the positive instead (big chance I’ll use it once in another blog!). Struck by the power of the metaphor, he decided to do something with the stories, followed his heart and started Zintenz.
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Change and how to flow with it

Just before New Years, the news got out that three big retail chains in The Netherlands went bankrupt. The largest one had 10.000 employees, who all went into 2016 without a job. This is something that is not just happening to them, but also to their husbands and wives, children, parents, friends, suppliers, you name it. The funny thing is, that this is an example of companies where things went wrong, while the last century we’ve been quite well capable of managing our businesses, departments and processes. It depends on how executives are capable of flowing with all that happens and their capacity for awareness of what wants to happen when times get harder. Lately though, it seems like more and more companies, organizations and even people are slipping away, which is to my feeling just the outer layer of the problems. So how do you master a wave like this?

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2016. A new year has begun. And new years often begin with resolutions. Do you have new year resolutions? I’ve been asked quite some times now, what my new year resolutions are. And people expect you to answer ‘doing more sports’, ‘eating healthy’, ‘finding this incredible job’. My new year resolution is to do more of what I do best.

It is funny, because I’ve been trying to find myself a new title. As I was trying to find out what I do best and do more of that this last year, I felt like I had to change my title on LinkedIn. In order to be found better by organizations. Because I’d like to find a new assignment. Because I love working, it inspires me and gives me a sense of meaning. Being able to put my energy in something worthwhile makes me flourish as a person. And I know that where I put my energy in, flourishes as well, as that is just a simple universal rule.
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How to commit to the present?

Committing to the present


Last week a friend invited me to come with her to the ‘De Mot Verhalen‘. In a beautiful setting, all kinds of people sit together and five of them tell a story with a musical intermezzo in between. It is organized to stimulate storytelling by real people. A wonderful experience. Five completely different stories, shared by five completely different people. The most beautiful part of it to me was how we, with all people present, somehow carried the person telling the story. Making it possible for them to share something personal, sometimes funny, sometimes heartbreaking.

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Shifting perspectives



We find ourselves in a world that is volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous. There is a shift going on, to a next stage of human consciousness. All around the world are eruptions of some kind. In order to navigate this constantly changing world, we need to create a different perspective. The old economy has to make place for a new one and this requires a new way of working, a shift in perspective.

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What if you have a meeting tomorrow that makes you nervous, the thought of it makes you tremble, of which your entire body tells you it wants to run away from it? What then? What do you do? Do you recognize that? As I am a freelance consultant I don’t have those meetings very often, but I see this happen a lot around me. Working for a company, being forced in a position you don’t want to be in, can make you feel terrible. Your manager can tell you it’s something you have to learn, something you need to face. So what is it your manager wants you to learn while your body tells you something completely different?

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Awareness‘Once you know, you can’t not know it anymore’, is what Alan Seale told us during the Manifestion Wheel. But when do you know? The problem is I know by feeling. I can’t really explain those feelings as they are just not to grab and hand over in rationalized written words. I just know. Sometimes things happen and I see why. I can even tell what the lessons of the things happening are. But saying things out loud is something else. Because then the ego comes around: what if you’re wrong? That is where I am now. I wouldn’t dare say out loud what I know just yet. And when at all I only should when asked for and just to the people involved. And above all that, I’d rather see it happen and then have the trust in my own feelings built itself slowly.

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