About Boundaries & Ferocious love

Ferocious love. An incredibly powerful word that spoke to me the first time I heard about it. Is it possible to love ferociously? It means loving with the utmost power, in the most powerful way possible. Brene Brown shares it in this video in a beautiful way. And with that comes setting boundaries for what is ok and what is not. What you do and do not allow people to do. Be compassionate with people where they are, where they come from AND put boundaries to what is and is not ok. To lead them in love. Boundaries are rooted in love. Boundaries create respect AND boundaries are loving.

Loving ferociously is not about smothering someone in your love. It is about setting people free, making them find their own way in life. Standing next to someone and walk beside them in hard or dark times, without judgement. Touching people who are not supposed to be touched. Asking ‘how are you?’ to someone who you feel is in need of connecting. Ferocious love is about so much more than relationships. It is about the core of our being and screaming to be out there. A well known quote I’ve used in an earlier blog is: “Don’t walk behind me, I might not lead, don’t walk in front of me, I might not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.

It is this years’ theme of the Transformational Presence Global Leadership Gathering: “Leading with fierce gentleness and ferocious love”. It couldn’t have been chosen better. Because that is what we need right now, leaders who set boundaries, rooted in love. So they create a safe space for you to built upon and become the best version of you. Enjoy the video!



About two wolves, choices and happy thoughts

Think happy thoughts
During our last holiday I read The Alchemist from Paolo Coelho again. It is brilliant how this book, this story, reaches you differently every time. I remember the first time I read it I didn’t really understand it all. Now the opposite was true. Everything resonated and it was one huge field of encounter. Not that I have ever been in the desert, or have been a shepherd, but this story about the recognition from the heart and the walls of illusion is just a great metaphor for life. Well, that’s probably the reason why he sold 30 million copies of it worldwide.
The boy, a shepherd, is learning how to tap into the universal language. A language unspoken, but always present. And there is only one way to tap into this language, through the heart. It is the gateway to intuition, love and awareness. Shutting off your heart means staying inside the walls of illusion, an imprisoned world that is fabricated by our minds, our thoughts.

Now lately we cannot close our eyes anymore for the terrible things happening in our world. There are big shifts going on on a macro-level. But these are actually quite the same as the challenges we face in our daily lives, or even within ourselves. That is called the principle of correspondence, one of the Hermetic principles. It says that everything that happens on one level, also occurs on all other levels. So how can we change this? Let’s start with ourselves. Again there is a beautiful Zintenz story about this subject, the one of the two wolves:

An old indian told his grandson about life. “Within me there is a fight going on”, he said to the boy. “It is a horrible fight between two wolves. The one wolf is bad. He exists from rage, jealousy, greed, conceit, lies, false pride and ego. The other wolf is good. He is joy, peace, love, hope, calmness, humility, kindness, generosity and compassion. Within you the same fight rages. And that goes for each and every other living person.” The grandson was thinking for a moment and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”. The old indian smiled and answered: “The one you feed.”

If we feed ourselves with love, or, if you like to put it more down to earth, happy thoughts, you’ll be much more likely to create positive things than by thinking negative. This is a choice. And it starts with you. And because every single particle is energetically connected, you can create a movement. Don’t believe me? Watch this video. A movement of happy thoughts. Because if you put yourself in a positive state, you create a positive wave. Brains will start serving hearts instead of the other way around, keeping up the walls of illusion. So why not start today? Feed yourself with good things, let love rule and think happy thoughts!



Source: Inkhappi.com

We all come across people once in a while we can’t follow, of whom we don’t know what their message is. Or we interpret their behavior as unfriendly and you can’t understand why. Or they have this attitude that makes them unreachable and you don’t know how to make contact, although you have to work with them. Or someone you just continuously clash with, either at work, or in private.

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