About children, education and connection

educationSitting at the beach on a beautiful morning last week, I spoke with a friend about connection. I called her, because her name just popped up in my mind and I wondered if she wouldn’t like to join me at my fantastic freelance work spot for the day. She answered the phone with the words, “Wow, I was just thinking of you!”. It happens to all of us regularly. And our conversation continued about the importance of connecting with yourself and others. Being connected with yourself, means being connected with others, who are in true connection with themselves as well. You find each other there, as all is one. Tapping into this, brings such happiness. In the end, it is the connection with yourself that creates the most balanced and happy you, telling others unconsciously they are allowed to do the same. As Nelson Mandela does in his inauguration speech, words of wisdom:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
It’s our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually who are we not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightening about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone.
And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously
Give other people the permission to do the same.

Nelson Mandela, Inaugural Speech 1994

Now from childhood onwards, everything was about educating the mind. Yes, I say ‘was’ as times are changing. Making sure your grades are good, getting into a well-regarded university and do an education of high standing. In order to have the best chances offered to you in the labour market.

Last weekends’ Financieele Dagblad (Dutch financial newspaper) published a spread about the most famous business universities like Harvard and INSEAD, who are now offering more and more programs on life lessons instead of business education. Because there is a high demand for a more intuitive kind of education. In the primary schools around me I hear nothing but kids not fitting into the governmental standard education anymore, searching for other ways to be able to express themselves.

Our daughter, who went to another school this year, blossoms as she is allowed to write stories, create videos, design projects of her own imagination and all that in primary school. She came to me this morning, telling me she knew how her story would continue, a story she was writing for a school contest. Just before she fell asleep it got to her and she hoped she would be able to keep it with her during the night. I wish for every child to be offered these chances. As it is not about grades anymore, but doing what you are good at. Using your personal talent, by being fully connected. A connection with themselves, one that will never leave them, if they are trained to go back there day in and day out. Listening to their inner voice. And knowing from their true being what their share in the world is. So provide them with roots, instead of holding them in our grounded conditions and set them free, make them fly . Show them they are worthy of being in their essence. Believe me, they won’t disappoint you, but show you the beauty of their dreams in return.


Core values

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Every conversation I’ve been in lately, business or private, somehow started or ended with the question: ‘Who are you?’. During the years I have asked a lot of companies what their core message is, what they have to tell the world in one simple sentence. And after that, followed an exercise in finding their core values. Something I’ve been asking my clients for years, but I never realized how incredibly important they are to an individual as well. Because knowing what your values are, makes it possible to align everything you do with those values. So…

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stuffYesterday’s newspaper headline was: Would it help if we open up our border? The article was about the thousands of refugees trying to enter Europe. The real answer to that, in an ideal world would for sure be yes. And maybe even in this not-ideal world. But the big problem is, that we, humans, started to possess pieces of the world. Or at least thought we were allowed to arrogate pieces of the world. And yes, the Dutch people played quite a big role in that. And we are very proud of that too….Amazing actually, isn’t it?

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What would you do if you had no responsibilities for one day? A good friend asked me this question last week and thus far I didn’t answer her question. The first thing that came to my mind was ‘do nothing, one whole day long’. But than I realized it isn’t that easy. Having no responsibilities feels very empty to me. Not being responsible for any of my actions is unthinkable. I wrote about it before, that you are the one at the steering wheel of your life, but I am starting to realize it is much more than that.

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True leadership


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Is it true that we, by filling up our agendas to the max, take the flow out of life? More and more I think it’s true. More and more, I realize that by planning ahead, we stop the flow of life from going and showing us what we need to see or work with. In our private lives as well as in our business lives. I tried to keep our private agenda empty for a while, to see what would happen. We had a great time, as things happened very spontaneously, and we got to do things we had on our bucket list for a long time, but never managed to do. But we also noticed, that we didn’t see friends as much anymore. Simply because their agendas were packed and they only had time in about six weeks to have dinner with us. And I’m not talking about just one couple here.

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A very obvious theme today, as the 5th of may is Dutch Liberation Day. The day we celebrate the liberation of the occupation by Nazi Germany during World War II. It is a day of gratitude and celebration. And we should. But at the same time I feel sad. Cause isn’t it so, that we in our thriving society daily take other people’s freedom away? Not physically this time, but mentally? I wrote about this before, but I think today is a good moment to refresh…

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